Friday, 23 March 2007

What is STRONG with me?

So i was thinking the other day why my relationships never really last..whats the problem..is it me what am i doing wrong...do i smell? God punish u there for saying maybe...what exactly is it..am not clingy, not high maintenance or materialistic..i no too worwor...so what is the problem? Am not over-dependent,not money hungry..i even like football!!!!

Is it because i dont like sex ? ding ding ding ding ding.......alas i've found the answer.

Okay dont get me wrong it's not like i hate sex, yes i can tolerate the occasional kpanshing like once a month and i like to held and touched and all every now and then,when i feel like it..u cant just come and grab my waist anytime agro is catching u cause i can knee u in the groin.....but sex is a drag...for me sha..

I once told one dude that if we go out we wont have sex and he replied..."what am i going out with u for if i can't have sex with u,do i want to be kissing your cheeks abi is it your face i want to be looking at?, if thats the case ive seen finer faces"Chaineke!!!...no this one no be chineke matter..na chai plus chineke cause chineke no fit carry that kain insult..

I remember the first dude i ever really liked and maybe loved...lets call him bomboi....Now bomboi looks alot like bow-wow thats why anytime i see a bow-wow video i get all tingly inside cause it reminds me of him and i so want to forget him..Now bomboi didnt know he had me in the palm of his hands back then,as in he cud blow air my way and id start shaking..thats how much i liked him..but for the 2 or so years we were wasting our time thinking we were dating i just felt like i was giving my all and bomboi couldnt care less.He had this non-challant attitude to the whole relationship and it just broke my heart...he'd ask me to come over and he'd totally ignore me all thru...hardly calls..excuses excuses excuses...i had to even beg this dude to touch moi..and i dont ever do that....
This one time when i came over...it was clear we were over but i still went around cause i just cant resist seeing him...only for bomboi to leave me downstairs with his friends and go upstairs to gaan put his zoom zoom in one chicks poom poom upstairs...i was downstairs with his friend and he was upstairs doing chooku chooku with this chick o..insult! when i confronted him he was like..he didnt know she'd come over and it was actually his friend who told him to tell me to come...yet again i say Chaineke!!!
I deleted bomboi's number,there's only so much a person can take,even as friends he showed that he didnt send me.

Then there's s.a sexy(4give me simply gorgeous)....hmm hmmm hmmm....he was lust in a 5ft 11 dark skinned body with a personality to match.Two weeks after we started going out i was alreayd saying "i love you"...sometimes ehn i can be daft...of course him he was just in it for some ass.so the whole i love you thing wasn't his cup of zobo....yet again...he had a nice personality,definately not boring..but he did and said somethings that really hurt me and after a while when i realised homeboy wasnt in it for the long run...i carried my size 43 legs and waka-ed..though it hurt me like sege...cause when i told him u berra step up or am out he was like..then be out...and ehn..no make the door jam ur leg on the way out....emi olaide omo baba mi....is ok.i left but i still had feelings for omo boy but i guess he didnt...i still like him though sha..he'll get his..


Then finally there was 'papa smurf'...he was probably the first dude who made me feel loved,the beginning was so sweet and all..we only needed ourselves..he understood the fact that i didnt want sex and he was okay with it..i thought i had died and gone to heaven..ironla...it meant i had to compensate with every other thing...but i was okay with that..cause he um..sha..he..well..he turned my pages sha....yes...

He'd come over to my crib and we'd do soft porn for mr. oyekusibe, he knew my family..i actually thought we'd get married sha..funny huh? I'd sleep and he'd stroke my cheek never minding the hideous snoring...and i was beautiful in anything with him..but at one point everything just fizzled...a lil less calls and visits and everything just went down south from there...i guess i wasn't as attracted to him as i thought i was plus the reason why my feelings probably fizzled was because his did first and so we jus went our seperate ways..but i keep asking myself..was it because of the sex? did he just get tired and was like which kain punishment be dis...he's a sweetheart and all..but i just dunno what happened sha...so yeah uv read about my relationships,am always attracted to people that dont give a damn bout me...sad huh and the ones that do am not...it's just so annoying..can't a sister just find a brother that'd be down for her..like sheesh...finding Mr. exschoolnerd is harder than finding osama bin laden.

21 comments:

Olu said...

Man I be d first sha....yes! Oya lemme go back and finish reading!

Olu said...

I feel like making some pple jealous..I'm gonna take d 2nd spot! Hahaha

Olu said...

Now here's d deal...as a guy I know how hard it can be going out with a girl who doesn't give it up. I've been with girls who would do every other thing except vaginal sex...but then it got boring after a while and d temptation kept building...so u know wat happened after...
Now I'm not saying its all bout sex...there's more to a relationship than sex....I know I can't do without it but if I truly like d girl sha, I go wait till I sweet talk am.
You got me with d chaineke! Permission to use it? Tank u...ur too mush! Lol
Wat I can also say is this, don't worry, d right guy will come who actually believes its best to wait till d wedding nite...wait wat am I saying? Most guys are sex hungry including me so I go dey pray for u sha...u for try give am up more often. But you're trying sef...some naija girls don't even believe in Kissing. I messed with this naija girl fo a month. Not one kiss! Can u imagine and she claimed I was her boyfriend...I had to call her to d side one day to stop spreading d rumor that we were going out oh...wetin man go do? After all, when we go out with our friends, dem go dey kiss and we just take style comot face face dey yan...imagine!
Sha sha...u didn't talk about your bf...d ibo one...wats his name again? Obinna right? He got some?

bimbylads said...

lol.. ur just a clown, ive added u to my fav bloggers... i like ur blogs more each day..
extra lol @ chaineke!! lol

bimbylads said...

ok.. ive read properly now.. babes.. ur man will find u.. i had my NO sEX policy for a very long time, and many of the men cheated on me.. thier loss.. but ur own MR EX SCHOOL NERD will find u.. okay! loll

Anonymous said...

Hey Gurl i love your blogs, you tell really good stories. Concerning Mr right? Don't worry he will come when you least expect. Just pray about it and don't let any guy fool you into giving it up when you know you are not ready. I know this becoz i am in the same boat as you. I have dated guys and i wasn't ready to give it up and they left me. It hurts but its their own loose. Its your precious gold, hold it tight untill your ready. take care and keep writing.

Anthony Arojojoye said...

Don't start tagging it as a gender thing. Atimes guys are also at the receiving end.
The main thing is understanding. It opens many doors.

exschoolnerd said...

@olu..lol ur a character...charac wetin? ter...thnx for decorating my blog with ur posts sha..lol @ stop spreading the rumours that we are dating...had me there..pray oh..pray for me well well..ill appreciate it.
@bimbylads...amin o!!!..awww..one of the one and only bmby lad's fav bloggers...am touched sweerie..u know u rock too.
@anonymous...thnx girlie...for the words...i totally appreciate them.and do come bck anytime..
@anthony..i hear u!

obinwanne said...

laide... just mind your life and dont expect too much and your mr. right will just walk into your life, but when you're too expectant you get wront visitors....

Simply Gorgeous said...

Ex- babe- what happened? I was reading through this sordid ordeal. Everything has its time and yours will surely come. Did you ever notice when you are with someone, they all come flocking, and when there are none is when you can't find not neven a pygmy to date.

Take heart, everything will be ok.

I have wrapped my slender exotic hands around your long neck but then I realized you have saved yourself a slow burial for my S.O. Sexy is not your S.A. Sexy. My hands have released now can you breathe? I am so sorry. (smile)

omohemi Benson said...

LMAO, girl you are funny.

No worry your own Mr. Exschoolnerd, will come,maybe not on white horse with shinning amour,but he will come ok.

Remember Sunny ade&Onyeka song
....If you love me you go wait for me....

exschoolnerd said...

@all...my pikin no die...so why all the aww sorry..laide dont worry..i appreciate it and all..but o it di mi si desperado.take time oh..lol...m not o! AM JUST LAMENTING...just curious y my r.shps dnt last..not like am crying..where is mr exschoolnerd? where is mr exschoolnerd..but thnx for the words...

Yosh said...

Yeah, like Anthony said, it's all about understanding. And pro'ly, they aren't the real ones for you.

Like I was talking to my buddy the other day, he says let's cut all the bullshit and enjoy life right now, while we wait till the right time, which when it comes, it wouldn't be hard to tell, see! So just chill. I know you aren't, but don't get even start getting all grippy and possessive in your mind, just let things flow...if he's the right guy, the whole understanding will come into play and from the onset, you two know what to expect! :)

:) Enjoy!

Jack Bloggs said...

lol... Nerdie, babes i relate with you o!, I know how we guys can get, Its terrible - I mean, guys would just 'ex' all of a sudden like that. And trust me its not always because of lack of sex. Sometimes you could be having a healthy sexual relationship (if there anything like that) and they will still fade. They secret - "Keep him in live with you" - The mistake a lot of girls make is that, the are 'SELFISH IN LOVE'. They keep themselves in love with their men i.e. when the guy does all those sweet things like stroking you while you sleep, you just love him more and more... You need to ask youself - what are the things you do for him that last/stick in his head - and i am not saying all those mumu things that girls do like, spending your last 1p on him. I mean - Do a few special things to show him that if he loses you - he will hate himself. But to be honest, we guys can get so stupid that even if you do these things, we would still mess up. But at least you are guranteed that he will come back begging - and when he does that - you would make a few things clear before accepting him back, that is if you are willing to do that!

racquelle-cutie said...

abeg no mind all this guyz is not a must 4 u 2 get down with them its gud how u can control urself n not let randy guyz take advantage n dont worry my sister there's plenty more fish in the sea

law_damsel said...

ex.lolllllll, ur a clown..no doubt, ma wori when i come MFM here we come abi no b u recommend am b4..

Chude! said...

Okay you're officially crazy!

But let's look at this 'socio-emotional situation objectively, and with academic dispassionateness setting aside all self righteous tendencies and focussed solely on a cross pollination of ideas amongst both sexes (hold on, you do know I'm trying to be funny with all this grammar right?!): you like sex, the guy doesn't like sex; he wants it, you dont want it: don't you think it's both of you being selfish and not just him????

Hmm... I guess you never thought of that!Lol

Great blog you have going. Thanks for plugging mine sometime ago. Someone just told me about it yesterday. And I assure you I will be coming back babe! And oh I I remember your mail!

Cheers

exschoolnerd said...

@jack bloggs..i get u..thanx for the tip..will definately be using it in the future...
@raquelle..thnx sweets..who needs them neways.
@law_damsel...no wahala...MFM for me and u..its on!
@chude..oh goodie chude..the grammar kinda threw me off guard at first...bt i kinda grabbed u were tryna be funny..naughty u!

Me being selfish...hmmm?! i guess u kinda have a point..but all the same being in a relationship is about compromise..am not saying forever we r never gonna have sex but just gimme some time!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thnx for the comment...n do come back..will u?

Nneka's World said...

My dear stick to your principles, dont let no man make you feel guilty, cause they are experts at doing that. Lol you always make me laugh with your posts

tokunbo said...

hey girl, I was looking for your xanga site, didnt know uve moved here since January...talking about the word 'current'...I've bkmrk'd this one sha...

hhmmm, Nice post, yeah, Nothing is Strong with you...Keep up your convictions girl, like one of my momsie's put it: there is a difference between "Aluko" and "Aloku".

Fatima said...

i know what drags me to read ur blogs?coz the more i read it,the more it freaks me out how much we are in common...ame thing happened to me,they wait and wait and wait then BOOM! thery're gone like magic...it hurts and i so feel u,but keep it up coz u woul dfind him,am so happy i did(but we got other things...)he so respects me for it and sometimes i feel maybe he's lying and doing stuff,with other girls or even...who knows himself,coz u come to release men cant do without SEX and to find the last of their dying breed is s o hard...u almost give up,not knowing he's right there infront of u...just keep being real!!coz thats what trips me most bout ppl...real ppl trip me....we're the last of our dying breed as well...i found my match and ild pray u find urs!!
PEACE ;)