Thursday, 7 June 2007

Cousin T goes back to Ibadan and school starts.

Cousin t has gone back to Ibadan...yes oh...she has finally gone to be with her family after 11years of staying with us..here's what happened oh..that razz ibo boy they call obinna says its my fault..my fault ba wo...

okay i had a visitor oh...so i went to buy something for this visitor only to see my cousin in one barber's shop like this..a place where u could only see wayward girls,omo eleran,alata's and the like...i was like oh my God! this girl is a..i called her..i scolded her and i told her to go home....just a week before i told this girl to just help me buy something...somewhere that shoudnt take her more than 10minutes....two hours later this girl was still not back...i had to go and look for her...i was so so scared...if u saw me on the road that day ud know i was looking for someone...i just kept praying that nothing had happened to her...i was just so so scared....only to get home and see her...i asked her where she had been..she said she was gisting with a friend on the road....for two hours!!!!!...and i thought one gbomo gbomo had carried the alakoba away....i swear i slapped her...because if u know how scared i was...how many people i asked..how much i wanted to cry...only for her to tell me she was gisting with her friends...i also found out she didnt even go where i sent her..

okay back to finding her in the barber's shop oh....that same day in the morning..i entered the bathroom not knowing she was there...and i saw her wearing all these yeye beads all these girls wear that my mumcy had warned her not to wear but to focus on her books...she says she wears them to get shape...i reserve my comments..i collected them and showed my mumcy who told my pupcy about everything including the barbershop thingie...and my pupcy called her and punished her and started asking questions...my pupcy has never ever laid a hand on any one of us in his life..my cousin included but he was just fed up...she also wrote a very rude letter to my dad telling him to organise a way for her to go back to ibadan immediately that she's tired of school and she cant cope and just wants to go home and the other idiotic things the ungrateful girl wrote in the letter...okay oh...my dad called her dad because the insult was too much from a 16 year old girl..he'll be 60 in october.She was also shouting on him when he was questioning her that he should leave her alone that he wants she wants to go to ibadan..why father said okay..no problem..

On Monday my dad invited her parents..those ones didnt even talk to her or tell her,her behaviour was bad or tell her to apologise to my dad for all the things she said.My father didnt say anything....they were talking some other silly stuff like this.....some people ehn...well she went home that day...though i didnt know she was leaving cause i didnt get the chance to say bye..
I wish her all the best in life sha, i hope some of the things i have been telling her for the past 4 years would finally come to make sense to her.I hope she changes for the better cause if she doesnt..hmm..lemme just shut up sha...Good luck to her and hope to see her again...one day!

but who will kill cockroaches for me?
who will tell me how i look in any outfit?
who will say i look like nelly furtado to make me feel better?
who will murder song lyrics?who will steal my payints?
who will play with my hair so i can sleep?
who will relaxe my hair?

who? tell me who? Cousin T no matter how u were..u will be missed.

Anyways she's gone and that means my work around the house has doubled..yeparipa..as in if u come to my house on sundays and u see me...u'll be like laide...is dis u...i always lose like 10kg during weekends and gain it back during the week...chei i taya oh...they can eat in that house..must we eat three times a day sef...and the way they send someone on errands...kai...thnk God pupcy agreed that i can move to the hostel..i want to runaway quick quick before he changes his mind...i will only be coming home during weekends..wo n fe kpa omo lo mo...(they want to kill someone's child)...it aint happening oh.

One olori buruku pushed me out of a moving bus today...it wasnt moving too fast sha...Jesus! i almost fell down yakata on express in full glare of everybody..my heart was in my mouth..i was like is this what my parents want me to be going through everyday..what if i fell and hit my head on the pavement..tufiakwa! God will punish that evil hand that pushed me and that bus driver that didnt want to stop...idiot!
That was the last straw and i told my dad i was tired of the whole public transport thingie..i have tried..former ajebutter like me that was chauffeur driven everywhere so much i was a JJC..i have kpakorized now. Plus the damned rain has shown me shege you would think after rihanna sang "umbrella" people wud be more willing to share their umbrella oh...but mba! stingo's like them...there ill be under the rain expecting someone to say "you can stand under my umburella ,u can stand under my umburella ella ella a a....

School has started and i found out i might be moving to the hostel..yipee!!!might being the key word oh.. but ill be coming home during weekends..bummer! but at least i can avoid them weekly chores...well i have mixed feelings about moving to the hostel sha as much as i think i need to be in the hostel cause it will be less stressful..dealing with girls...hmm..not my favorite thing...well i did it in my first year and ill have alot less roomates to deal with at least i m sure i can take on three of them is they misbehave...i just hope everything goes well sha.

Plus id be able to see "My akwa ibom stud" more often...no thats not the real reason why i want to move to the hostel..but i guess everything just falls into place.hehehehe(my ashewo laff)..it'll give me time to be able to pursue my writing gigs and do my own stuff not forgetting school work sha..right now am just doing course registration and all....so if i dont blog often know that its not because i dont wnt to...its cause i am busy as a bee...okay! love yall..especially simply gorgeous...n ugo..and everyone else..

18 comments:

Simply Gorgeous said...

Hey babe, what's up? You know I love ya too. So as a loyal friend I have to be honest I have never been one too hold my tongue. So why reserve the right to do it now... I think you have treated your cousin T very unfairly. Even if she is 16 it is still her life and her mistakes.

If she wants too hang out at the barber shop isn't that her choice? I understand your concern. And slapping her in public even in private is definitely a no-no.

I don't understand your rationale on dropping dimes and quarters on her and then missing her later.


As for cursing out your Pops maybe she felt more like house-help than your cousin and she was just tired of it. Her parents did not say anything because they probably figured their daughter was abused by you guys there.



Hostel- I will pray that you will be safe when you get there. Crazy stuff happens in the hostel. I am still debating whether or not to send my kids even to boarding school for that same reason.

In reference to your small boy that you have been chasing when my pal Yosh has been waiting for you... Hmmm... may fire strike in your yansh... may you not sit down straight for 2 weeks....every time you see your small boy may you picture Freddie Kreuger instead.

I am tired and I am finished. But I have warned you o (pulling on my ears)....

OH I AM FIRST!!!!

Diva-sta said...

erm..i agree with simply gorgeous..cos im 17 yh and if any1 my uncle/cousin treated me dat way...BEAT me...yoooooo...it's world war 3...but then it's just me :P nice post

Diva-sta said...

oo btw in answer to ur question em...i didnt do da layout ma sis did...im bad with all things technology (and i do I.t in alevels) lolz

Kaydee said...

Lighdeh! U are the original alakoba.U kobalized the girl big time.It ain't hard to tell,Ibadan peeps no how to spare the rod.My Mum is from there and i've got a whole lot of rotten cousins.Seriously,the next U'll hear of her is that she's pregnant or she's doin runz(God forgive me if i'm wrong oh!).I feel pity for her coz i've watched a lot of my couzins leave and they're all with babies now,even the guys are polygamists at 23 and 25.Will check U in school later this month.I'ma holla ya b4 i show up

exschoolnerd said...

@simply gorgeous..i dont expect anybody to see where am coming from..cause u guys didnt experience it..its so easy to be start assuming stuff and all...but u know i always believe God is our witness and he knows we didnt treat my cousin unfairly...we put her in private school she wanted public..everything good we did for her she wanted something bad....sometimes she was even treated better than some of us...she had everything she needed which was the more reason why we couldnt understand why she was acting up.

Treated her like a househelp..that is very very unfair...i do more work than her...even when i was her age i did more stuff than her..we have a househelp already that does all the job...yes she does stuff around the house but so does every body else...she cant eat all day and expect everybody to pick up after her....so she wasnt mistreated in anyway...

she has been misbeahving for 4years and almost got pregnant,on two occasions she has followed boys she didnt know out and we had to look for her..what if something happened to her.that'd be devastating...her family will say something else..if anything had happened to her who do u think all the blame would have gone to my father...so you see its not like i enjoyed telling my parents..the fact that i reported her doesnt mean i didnt like her.for years she had been doing stuff and i just kept quiet but when someone is continously mibehaving after being advised and reprimanded on more than 100 occasions...what is a person to do.

she lived with us for 11years she was like my sister for crissakes.....all i will say is i dont think anybody has the right to say anything unless they were in our shoes..

and about her family its another thing that is doing them...u dont know the half of it...i think it was very bad of them to not saying anything..but whatever...i am happy shes with her family now...for 11years they only visited her twice...so much for being her folks...

your saying its her life and its her mistakes...u see the thing is if i didnt give a damn about her...i could just turn the other way and watch the barber get her pregnant and she drops out of school..but thats not me...its because i cared i bothered to report so they could talk some sense into her..

exschoolnerd said...

@kaydee..am not from ibadan.my folks aint strict.and i didnt kobalize anybody abeg.

Simply Gorgeous said...

Ex- You are right in a sense. I don't know the whole the story. I can only go on the little tidbits that you share with us. I am basing it on what YOU have already shared.

In reference to her pregnancy, she is obviously acting out. PSYCH 101 will teach us that she is looking for attention from men of the opposite sex or attention at all. You yourself said that she was living in your house for 11 years, that is a long time to live without her main family. She probably felt abandoned and even though your family felt that they loved her. She obviously did not feel that they did. Therefore, looking for gratification and love from men.

I still insist that talking to her would have been better. I understand your dilemma, but did you understand hers?

It is hard to understand someone who doesn't feel they are worthy, and I believe your cousin was exactly like that.

You can still care about her without reporting her to your parents.

Anyway, what has happened. Has already happened. She is back home with her parents and maybe that is where she should have aways been. It is hard for a fiveyear old to comprehend that she will no longer be living with her family and with relatives. Very hard.

exschoolnerd said...

@simply gorgeous...i have talked to this girl for over 4 years..i have tried to motivate her and tell her she can be anything she set her mind to if only she would focus.I have told her that she is beautiful and she shouldnt let the words of others get her down and all she needs to worry about is what she thinks about herself..

i had self-esteem issues when i was younger and i know how horrid it was..which was why i tried to help her through it...i didnt report her cause i find delight in reporting her...but because it was too much...and i cant begin to explain.

i understand living without her family might hav been the reason for her acting up...she came to live with us because of a dying wish of my father's mother who told my dad to help raise her....and he did just that and cared for her like a daughter...when she was through with school she was supposed to go back to her folks..that was the plan all along...but somewhere along the line.she just began to act up...

i will stand by my decision to report her...i feel i did nothing wrong...am not a rat i cover up for her most of the time...but this time it had to be all out in the open.

יש (Yosh) said...

Good she's gone back now, in 1 piece. At least that's something to be thankful for.

And le best with going back to school. Big Brother's watching~! :)

Simply Gorgeous said...

I undertsand but why did your grandmother make such a request? Iknow her heart was in the right place but I know it was no the best thing for her. The best thing for her should have been for the girl to stay with her parents.

Anyway, it has happened. I told you I am keeping my eyes on you about "you so called stud". (smile)

Simply Gorgeous said...

PS-too many tping grammatical errors- sheesh!

exschoolnerd said...

@simply...is it not u...olodo rabata!!!

and what do u mean my so called stud..better take ur time oh.

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Anu boy said...

oh boy... so she is gone... well all i can say is that time will tell... when she does not see such a good life and people that care for and about her anymore, she will know what she has missed out on...

i wish her all the best...

u know sometimes, we tend to believe we are being maltreated when someone is trying to correct us,,that i know from my own experience...

its all good...
Ex... you tried i know, cos if she were your own sister, you for don beat am shege ehnnnn...

diary of a G said...

its a thin between right and wrong
but
discipline is needed
so is understanding

psykotikdiva said...

one thing i've noticed about nigerians is they always have a chip on thier shoulder nomatter how good you treat them, they always have this thing at the back of their mind(if i were in my house), so i get where you're coming from.the thing is nowadays people are growing up much faster and they want to experiment and obviously without proper guidance they tend to misbehave, she would obviously be too scared to come and tell you about a guy she liked, so she would rather use any opportunity to go out.well she's home now, so her peeps will deal with it.

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Segebee said...

i love your blog girl

and to think like moi u were a nerd

u did ur best for her and time will tell