Wednesday, 20 June 2007

What Do Women Want?

All activities have been put to a halt because of the NLC strike…lets just hope the stay at home is worth it. Hope something is achieved from all this not like in the past.

Anyways I guess the compulsory holiday gives me a chance to do some things that the usual hustle bustle of the week wouldn’t allow me to.


So I want to write an article for a man’s magazine see their fly website here MADE and the article is titled “What women want” you know I want to give the guys an insight into our minds, we are not that complicated just misunderstood. Lets makes them understand us, lets squash the myth that women are complex creatures that don’t know what they want, lets tell them what we want so they cant say they don’t know anymore.Lets bridge the gap between the sexes..between venus and mars...lets tell them what we want.

I’d like every girl/woman/lady/female….transvestites not included.. that reads this blog to drop a couple of things you want from your partner or in a relationship…what are those things that you want? Please share…ill quote you in my article but with fake names….but if u can leave ur age that'd be gravy but if u cant…sall good…

It doesn’t matter if another person has already addressed the things you need just leave your own comment okay…Thanx a lot.

I would like to start with a couple of things I need

1. A chastity belt for my man…..okay I kid I kid..i was watching starveillance this morn and they did something on Michael Douglas and zeta Jones…and zeta wanted Michael to wear this belt that shocks him or anyone who makes an attempt for the jewels…lol that’s like so so uncalled for.

Heres what I really think I want.

Attention: Yes I want attention, am not saying abandon every other thing in your life that you had before you met me and make me the all in all but I want that attention I want to know ur thinking of me. I want that call, that visit, that thoughtful text, that listening ear…The same way I give u my undying attention. I feel I deserve urs too.

To be appreciated
: I want to know I am of value to u, that u cherish me deeply. I don’t want to feel like just some other girl…like all the other girls you’ve been with. I am the girl I want to be appreciated, the things I do to be appreciated. When I start feeling like I am not appreciated like I am taking for granted then I start feeling like there’s no reason for me to still be in the relationship.

To be loved: this is a no-brainer

Communication: A break in communication leads to a disastrous relationship. Lets talk don’t say I always want to talk. Talking helps…I want him to tell me wants on ur mind even if u say ur not the “Expressive” type. Along the same lines of honesty and openness comes the aspect of communication. Men Believe women can't bear to hear the truth about some things, but id rather have my partner be able to tell me what’s on his mind rather than keeping it till it piles up and one day it comes out horridly.


To be respected: Yeah that is very important to me I want to be treated with the utmost respect. Not talked down to or belittled. That’s a no-no ive been there once and I deserve more than that. Respect begets respect….so if he needs his respect he will treat me with respect too. Treat me like a man with a good head on his shoulder that knows how a woman should be treated.


So those are a couple of things I want…WHAT DO U WANT?


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24 comments:

Ugo Daniels said...

Can the question be reversed or is it just for the gals? Get back to me pronto

יש (Yosh) said...

What do you have against trannies? I actually know a couple that'd have good inputs but now your...your, phobia will make them start a blog that'd check anti-tranny activities like yours...btw, that also delays my own inputs by a couple...

hmph

Ugo Daniels said...

Assuming it can be reversed like you said, if i say compartiblity, it may be too big a grammar, lemme break it down:

It boils down to what i term different strokes for different folks. It is easy to think, erroneaously, all men are attracted to some sort of universal ideal woman-that one perfect model everybody's craving for..Naaah!

Ideally, however, there should be trust, love, empathy, communication, and tolerance.

Personally, i want someone that doesn't 'imprison me' Guys, now and then want to unwind without their pals, just on their own with the boys, get drunk,etc. Sometimes, we all need breathing space.

Another thing i want is an understanding and listening. Women who always talk, especially loudly disgust me. There should be a kinda checks and balances. Someone must play the 'fool' in the union and it aint gon be me...lol!

I also want someone that's CRAZY in bed. This should be number one, anyways. Because, once i'm bored, it doesn't take me long to start looking elsewhere for sexual comfort.

And you must be a good cook...hahehehe. I don't joke with my stomach! at all at all!

Anonymous said...

I want everything u want ex...but most imporatntlly he needs to knw that i get VERY emotional and sensitive...so he makes ONE wrong move...m out...u may think this wld make me fall in and out of relationships...but it hasn't coz i watch men very carfully nd never let them close to ma heart till m REALLY turly sure!!Made two mistakes...so careful now.....that i can almost smell a rotten-no-good-of-a-man coming from a distance...even b4 he says a word to me!!!
Fati xoxo

DearSheila said...

hey ,

i totally agree with you mean but sometimes we never find a man that knows all of this...so they need to learn it from us, it's like getting someone that has most of the qualities and then molding them to be perfect for you.

Simply Gorgeous said...

Bughead, how are you? Basically, the same things that you have written is admirable. But what I don't see is faithfulness.

Being faithful is so key to a relationship. Once your spouse/partner is not faithful it breeds a lot of resentment and distrust.
which in turn will make your life and his hell.


A next thing is someone preferably of the same faith as me. When you have relationships that are based on different faiths it can be very stressful in a relationship.


I want someone that will put me first and know that I am his center, as he is mine. There are some men that will put their work first or friends or even family. This will most certainly be a bone of contention in a relationship.


So go ahead "MY LITTLE EX" go and quote me.....
if I think of more I will let you know.


@UGO- based on what you have written. It seems that you will be behaving irreponsibly when you are married " Imprison".

When she is slaving over a hot stove, cleaning your house and not talking loud and wait must I forget "crazy" in bed. Where will you be besides getting drunk with your friends probably not appreciating what you have at home. She will be worried about you when you are getting drunk. So I think you should be empathatic to her needs as well.

Marriage is a two way street and it requires a lot of commitment.

@EX- I told you I had a herd of kids but you did not listen to me. My goal is 25 ( smile). I am just kidding...Oh and she looks exactly like me.

kingsiju said...

li'm afraid, this is ladies only response topic. anyway, i'll like to come back to read what they want maybe i'll be able to convert those girls wey like my NICE side to my babe... and improve my performance rting too, givin' them what they want!

Bubbles said...

I want a good looking aka foine brotha (i never said i wasn't superficial like that). Please, he has to be easy on the eyes. We don't need no more ugly babies running around the face of this earth.

Dude has to be caring, affectionate, not afraid to show his emotions and all that good stuff.

However, i don't want a guy who is too emotional. Abeg, i cry enough for two already.

Dude, has to be well educated and able to carry on a decent conversation. I can't stand guys who for some reason don't know how to use their tenses. Please, stay away.

Most importantly, i want a guy who can cook. Not only should he be able to cook, he should also be willing to cook. I am not a chef nor do i intend to become one when i marry. So the cooking will be 50-50. If he wants to do 100% of the cooking that's fine with me also.

Anu boy said...

Hey hey hey....

i want a simple woman, very intelligent, beauriful, sezy, lol... i want a down ass chic... uhmm someone that will Love me thru thick and thin, through the fun part....
someone that is willing to make our sex life more hot....
someone, i will so much love, and will not let me think of cheating on her....
God i beg... send me this woman... i promise not to cheat on her....
i promise not to be an aristo..
i promise not to spend my money (£$) on any other girl
And i will love her till death...
someone that we will cry, laugh, smile together ohhh...

wavemasta said...

I want a woman with a sense of humor, thats intelligent, funny, has morals,and a vision. Im not looking for a perfect person.
She also has to be orobo cus im anti-lepa.
Lets see...I love a woman that can cook, and likes to read, and is an understanding and God-fearing person.
Well my requirements arent that much....lol

wavemasta said...

And I think anus comment sums up everything else I have to say.

sugarlomps said...

well you said it all ex but thing is finding all ds in 1man is kind hard so like sheila said you need 2 jus find the basic things you want and mould him but i want
a man that will love and appreciate me for me cos i will also love him 4 him

a man that is intelligent and can strike good conversation in any situation
a man that respects me as a person and not as an object because i will also respect him

a man that will never hit anyone in any situation not even his kids

a man that sees my weakness and not walk over it but be my strenght in those weak areas not exploit them

a man who talks to me about everything and shares all with me the way i share with him

Anonymous said...

laide i read ur comment on wavemasta's blog
cld it be sugarlomps read on his profile he was addicted to sugarlomps

exschoolnerd said...

@yosh....tansverstites aint real women.

@ugo...lol @ 'imprison u'.

@fati...that i can almost smell a rotten-no-good-of-a-man coming from a distance...lol...i wish i could too hon...i wish i could.

@dear sheila...ur right she...

@simply gorgeous...25 huh?! u want ur kini to be like pant wey don slack..lol

@bubbles... "can't stand guys who for some reason don't know how to use their tenses"...neither can i...they just put me off.And no ur not superficial..we all want someone we cn at least wlk on the road wt witout covering our faces..looks are a plus but not the all in all.

@anuboy...sharrap...all u want is a mute vagina.

@wavemasta...anti-lepa u say..did i tell u i love u!!!

@sugarlomps..yeah sweets i second all that.

@anon...i have no idea.

Coffey0072 said...

Ciao!...
I finally get to comment on your blog... better late than never as suppose...
and since you encouraged your readers to weigh in on what constitutes a workable complement or partner, rather... Here are my two cents, in a nutshell...
Earnestness, passion, open-mindeness, minimal baggage, intellect (the faculties of the mind are way too underrated in dating, these days), ability to communicate, metropolitan sensibilities, culture, and overall well roundedness. None of these attributes are difficult to attain, says the 29 year old single woman. ;-)

chicala said...
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chicala said...

lawl @ these guys o (ugo, anu boy and co). The title of the post was 'what do women want? ' i berieve, so allow the ladies to express themselves o.

Ok my yown : he shld be attentive...as in how annoying is it to realise that u'v been ranting all the while when u actually think he's been listening?

He shld be selfless no matter what. We'r both human so my needs matter as well, i cant stand selfish guys(unfortunately there's loads of them in this world, infact too many)! This is reminding God my prayer "pls help me meet that kind, selfless partner when the time comes"!!!

He shld be faithful too, thats like very important too. As in NO cheaters please!!

AND HE'S GAT TO BE FOIN,cant berieve i didnt mention this first. I am a fine guy freak, God help me....i know they hav wahala.

This is like jst a tip of the iceberg on my list, lawl. Ahhh pls nobori shld tell me am asking for too much o.

And let us know when u put ur article on , wld be rily nice to read an article that bloggers hav contributed to. U go girl!!!!!!!!!

catwalq said...

U mentioned alot of what I want too.

I will add that I want him to be prepared to take from me whateva he is dishing and reciprocate. If he wants to behave like an animal, I will treat him like a rabid dog but if he wants to be a human, I am very capable of treating like a man.

I want my space. U cannot expect me to revolve around u because if u revolve around me, u will just get dizzy.

U need to make ur friends understand that "my" time is non negotiable as my girlfriends have also been told to "relocate" so you can have me all to yourself.

U need to be clean. The way you take care of yourself and your things says alot about how you will be as a person...

when I think of any more, I will come and let u guys know

Nyemoni said...

There's fire on the mountain! Really what do we want? I think we want someone who will be there for us as much as possible, who will be understanding - realize we are not perfect but love us for ourselves, who will support us and tell us when we are going wrong...we want someone we'll grow old with..

TRAE said...

as promised, what men (Trae) wants: http://www.traedays.com/blog/2006/05/lets-talk-about-girls-kids-and-favourite-teams/. no long thing...peace!

Simply Gorgeous said...

You just want me to describe my tightness, abi? You pervert... I said I was kidding- update...

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princess said...

To add to all you said already, i love a man who is family oriented(who wont think staying at home with me is to be in prison,Ugo apologies), who is clean, smells nice and dresses well(I so hate dirty guys),who will listen with a smile on his face and reassure me when all i want to do is moan about everything thats not right.Abeg make i stop here jare.
Am in advertising too,which agency do u work with Exschoolnerd?

exschoolnerd said...

@all..tnx for ur contributions..yall have been very helpful.

@princess...well i work with my dad...he owns an ad company.