(This post is long, but its very important so nobody should trouble me with how long it is..if u don’t want to read don’t read, it you want to read..please do..)
I didnt know tomi, dont think i've ever met him, but i can feel his pain.
Am sure by now most of you have heard the story about the boy who committed suicide in unilag. ‘TOMI’ shot himself in the head because he hadn’t graduated three years after he was supposed to because of a supervisor who was on his case. When my friend bubu sent a mail about this story to me I wanted to weep, not cry, weep (there’ a difference)..because it is a very sad story. And I don’t think he should have done that because it solves nothing, but u can imagine his frustrations, still it didn’t warrant him killing himself because the evil supervisor will still go on living, doing that to other people regardless.
I’ve been putting off talking about my school(unilag) and the way most staff and lecturers treat students cause I’ve found out that some lecturers now have blogs and its kind of like a way for students to submit assignments, who knows who can get to read my blog and kasala go burst. But I’ve been silent for too long..and the anger in me can no longer be squelched.
I don’t know if some lecturers, university staff derive joy in making the lives of students miserable, I don’t know if it makes them sleep better at night by making another persons child’s live hell. Things they probably wouldn’t want their own kids to go through.
Let me tell you of my own experience and this is why I say tomi shouldn’t have done it…no matter what. Everybody has their own time, the fact that your friends are working and you are still in school, is hard, its tough, believe me I understand but still…when there is life, there is hope.
I finished school in 2000 I was 15 then, I did jamb two times, felt like a failure but my parents never made me feel like that(parents encouragement helps a lot).Most times I just get 200 or 210 not enough for the law I wanted to study then oh..because of my mum.
I did Babcock exam in 2003, passed it, went for my interview, only for pupcy to change his mind about me going there. Said he heard some stuff bout the school and didn’t want me to even do the course I was eventually given –ENGLISH. So I didn’t go to babcock and I was quite sad cause I’d probably have finished this year. I did unilag diploma in 2004, I was 19 then, which course did I choose the same ENGLISH..because I found out it was what I wanted to do as it had a lot to do with my interests., most of my mates had already entered school, some where in there 2nd and 3rd year.I tried not to let that get to me cause in my life disappointments have always proved to be blessings and I thank God I didn’t go to Babcock cause I wouldn’t be half the person I am today.
I finished diploma, my first semester results were good, 2nd semester wasn’t..i wasn’t reading I was scoping boys in class and worrying about irrelevant rubbish. I didn’t meet the cut off point by less than a point..it was so close,yet so far..I was relegated to English education…now people think that faculty is like the bottom but I don’t. Anyways a friend was also relegated but she opted to do wuru wuru to get herself back to ENGLISH arts, why? Because she was ashamed..of what people would think..nothing worked out for her and someone who’s supposed to be in her 3rd year, wrote post-ume exam at the beginning of this month…she didn’t want people to know where she was and so she missed out…and she regrets it..
Me, I felt like no matter where they put me.I will be what it is I want to be. Devil is a liar..yes I messed up…and I accept that and its up to me to do better and make the best out of the situation. But I still had problems(too long to list-financial) which meant I had to leave school for a year….When the financial problems where over(thank God) I was back in school, but my name even wasn’t on the list for English education, it was as if I wasn’t a student. The battle to get my name back on the list took 6months….I saw all my former course mates who were now in year 3 I hadn’t even done my 2nd year, it felt bad at times, cause coupled with the years I stayed at home am losing a year. I felt sad, I was depressed, I will wander in school, going from office to office, if u saw me u’d know I had a problem, life seemed like it was going downhill for me. I went to our DVC’S office for 6months and was tossed about like a rag, from the little secretary to the madams in the office, no one would answer me, they’d send me on fruitless journeys, lecturers would treat me anyhow, unkindly, shout at me, for no reason. But I’d take it all in my stride, this is what I have to endure. My parents would say I am gallivanting in school instead of solving my problem, yet they wouldn’t follow me to school to try and help me. I thank God I did it on my own with his help and the help of people he sent like M.S, and also that man that prayed for me at chapel and the prayers my parents gave me to pray.
I thought I had it bad but M.S had spent 8yrs in school, here I was thinking I had all the problems…but he took it as it was. And even though he had passed out and was working he would come to school everytime I needed him to and would follow me to senate like my brother and help me the best way he could. Thank God for all my friends who I told about my situation and told me to hang on(u know urselves) and especially M.S- Sometimes I would ask, shebi I just met this boy like a month ago, on hi5 sef, why is he this nice, he could go about his business but he is going out of his way to help me. Are there still people like this?
People would ask me…Laide are you still in this school? I’d nod hoping that, that would be the case eventually.
My mum finally came to talk with one woman to help address my issue, this devil sent woman said nothing can be done. Finally I met one woman in the same office and under 3weeks this woman solved the whole issue. After much prayers, cause prayer is the key. After those prayers popcy told me to pray I had a dream like I’ve never had I was in school and it wasn’t like other times, I wasn’t sad, sitting by myself, wondering why life was unfair to me. I was with books in my hands, laughing smiling, my head held up high and everything seemed like it would be okay. I would never forget that dream and three weeks later my name was on the list…something that took 6months.Believe me there were times when id look out those huge windows in senate building and wondered if maybe I jumped or threatened to jump this people would attend to me, or maybe it would end all my worries.I must add that the supposed disappointment of being sent to education has been a blessing once again
These people in Unilag, staff and lecturers do they have no compassion,don’t they have kids? Wouldn’t they have kids? Or don’t they know that karma is a bitch….and u can’t do all this to someone’s child and expect your own child not to go through the same thing. One secretary kept misplacing my letters and kept lying that I didn’t give her any. Why are they so mean? They wont come for lectures, they would give tests and ask you to seat on the floor, a pregnant woman had to do that even…with her legs shooting out of the packed class..is that a university..there are bigger classes to contain us, but we have to write to the best of our abilities in these conditions..sitting on the floor, uncomfortable cant even think straight. We are made to do tests under five minutes, what sensible thing can we put down in that time frame? I once did a test in our arts theatre with no light, so dark I couldn’t see the person sitting next to me, the people that had phones used their fones, me that didn’t have one had to submit a test unfinished..and so did many people. Shouldn’t the test have been canceled? Lazy lecturers not coming for classes, but when u miss one class you don’t get to do their exam….I am just tired and fed up and when you talk people will say is it today…so? Does that make it right? Shouldn’t we keep talking till they listen….why do they treat us this way..will it take anything out of their bodies to be nice?
If they dont misplace ur letters, its ur test or exam script and most times they say they can't do anything about it.
See what happened to Tomi? It could have been avoided..but no the inherent wickedness in their hearts will not let them to be nice and considerate.
I just hope they know that the way this life is, you think you are getting away with the wickedness you are doling out to students, forgetting how this life is. One day the tables could be turned, it might not be you, it might be your child, cousin, sister, brother….but one day na one day when karma will show u how much of a bitch she is.