What would people say?
You have probably heard that countless of times, or you yourself have probably uttered those words. I know I have and slowly but surely the thoughts of ‘people’ especially those whose two cents shouldn’t matter to me…about my life and decisions I make in my life, has started to mean little to me.
I see it as ‘bondage’ living ur life based on ‘what people would say’…after all in the end you alone will be left to deal with the consequences of your decision not them..and haven’t you heard that people would talk regardless of what you do.
I have noticed that people fear so much the thoughts of people, and end up living unfulfilled lives, I used to be one of such people and with every decision I made I had the terrible creature called ‘people’ hovering around me.
On a particular show of New dawn with Funmi Iyanda, a woman sent in a letter saying that she wants to get married in her church but her proposed husband wants them to get married in his church but she doesn’t want to. She goes on to ask if she will be sent to hell fire if she marries someone who doesn’t attend her church and she is scared of what people would say, what the pastor would say, what her family would say, what her church members would say if she married someone who doesn’t attend her church.
What does she want in the first place? This is her life here, her pastor will not come and stay n her matrimonial home for her, she alone will have to deal with whoever she ends up marrying so why does everybody’s opinion about her future matter more than hers? If she eventually marries someone from her church and he ends up being a monster what then will she say?
Sometimes I get very angry with myself when am fretting about a decision because I am afraid of public opinion, I m afraid of man and what he thinks of me, man a mere mortal like myself, who can talk from dusk to dawn and not a hair on my body will be affected, but yet I give him so much power to be able to decide what I can and can’t do..just because I am scared of what he would say.
We sometimes fear man more than God, we never think what would God think about this decision I am about to make, what does the bible say..no its what would my neighbor think, what would my friends think, what would my pastor say...will he approve of this?
People are just human like u. u prick them they bleed, u slap them they hurt…
They can only talk…it’s our nature to always have something to say about everything and everybody’s life
So why live in the bondage of what people would say.
May God help us to free ourselves from the bondage and hold of what other people would say and live our lives the way we want to and the way that we should cause really in the end we have to live with our decisions not ‘people’
The fear of what people would think made a friend of mine who is supposed to be in her 4th year to start the arduous journey of trying to re-enter the university this year and start all over again, the people whose opinions she was so scared of are going on with their lives not once remembering her.